People think grief is just about missing someone.
But it’s so much more than that.
It’s missing the life that only existed because they were in it.
It’s the future you thought you had.
The version of your life you assumed would always be there.
The part of yourself that only existed because they were part of your world.
People often say,
“I know exactly how you feel. I lost them too.”
But the truth is...
No one else knows what you lost.
They may miss the same person.
They may love the same person.
But no one else knew what it was like to be loved by them the way you were.
No one else knew what existed between the two of you.
That’s why grief can feel so lonely.
Not because you’re the only one grieving.
But because you’re the only one grieving that life.
The one that disappeared the moment they did.
No one else is grieving your place in their life...
...or their place in yours.
If these words connected with you, you’ll find many more like them in What Remains. It’s a collection of the writings I’ve shared over the years, bringing together reflections on grief, love, loss, and the connections that continue long after someone is gone.
I hope it brings you comfort, understanding, and the reminder that you’re not alone.
If you’d like to read more, you can find the book here
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Ive honestly never looked at grief this way. Very beautiful written 🙏