Living without you seems impossible.
Because you weren't just part of my life.
You were my life.
You were woven into everything.
Every plan I made.
Every decision.
Every moment.
And now you're gone.
And I'm supposed to just... keep going?
How?
How do I live in a world that doesn't have you in it?
How do I make plans for a future you're not part of?
How do I care about anything when the person I cared about most is missing from all of it?
I don't know how to do this.
I wake up every morning and for a split second, I forget.
And then I remember.
And the weight of it crushes me all over again.
You're gone.
And I have to live an entire day without you.
And then another.
And another.
For the rest of my life.
That feels impossible.
I don't want to learn to live with it.
I don't want to get used to a life without you in it.
I don't want this to become my normal.
Because a life without you isn't a life I ever wanted.
Everything feels wrong now.
I go through the motions.
I do what I'm supposed to do.
I show up.
I function.
But I'm not living.
Not really.
I'm surviving.
Barely.
Just getting from one day to the next.
Trying not to drown in the weight of missing you.
I'm just... here.
Existing.
Going through the motions of a life that doesn't feel like mine anymore.
Because my life had you in it.
And now it doesn't.
And I don't know who I am in this version.
I don't know how to be me without you.
Every day feels like I'm walking through fog.
Like I'm watching my life happen from behind glass.
I can see it.
I can participate in it.
But I can't actually feel it the way I used to.
Because you were what made it real.
You were what made it matter.
And without you, it's all just noise.
I know I'm supposed to keep living.
I know that's what you'd want.
I know life goes on whether I'm ready or not.
But living without you seems impossible.
And some days, I don't know if I'm strong enough to keep doing it.
But I get up anyway.
I keep breathing.
I keep moving forward.
Not because I want to.
Not because I know how.
But because I don't have a choice.
Living without you seems impossible.
But somehow, I'm still here.
If these words connected with you, you’ll find many more like them in What Remains. It’s a collection of the writings I’ve shared over the years, bringing together reflections on grief, love, loss, and the connections that continue long after someone is gone.
I hope it brings you comfort, understanding, and the reminder that you’re not alone.
If you’d like to read more, you can find the book here
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